courage and weight - "you can do anything you like, as long as you pay the price" really ???

I read the phrase "...it takes a lot of courage to hold that weight..."

suddenly  I understood: courage is what is required to hold the weight of responsibility in life. I never really saw that before.

Now I understand why the weight of things to deal with, things to do, things to face, things to accept require courage.

I used to believe that weight was a bad thing and a sign of something being wrong.

I wonder can this be expanded further to include this idea:

"Wrong' as such is a GREAT heavy weight. It is a weight that might crush us. Hence not doing 'wrong' is not for some arbitrary reason, but it is another way of saying: if you do this thing it will be so so so heavy on you, that it may crush you. Therefore we call this thing 'wrong' because it is wrong for you, wrong for the other.

hm.... that is a new perspective indeed.

I used to say to myself and others: "you can do anything you like, as long as you pay the price". Now I see that there are things that we can 'do' that we can never pay the price for, they would crush us.  No, they would not physicallly crush us, but spiritually, psychologically...and I guess that will come to a physical end eventually.

What are those things ?  The big ones are obvious.

But it is the subtle ones that matter most.

The things that i can feel intuitively as "this will cost you dearly" - they may not be 'wrong' in the big obvious sense, but they are 'wrong' for me, in the sense that their price, cost, weight would be VERY heavy.

hm....

I like this perspective. It brings it home to a meaningful yardstick, instead of some arbitrary bureaucratic rule, thought out by someone behind a desk trying to cover his a*** .

---(O)---

There is another part to this of course: the weight I break off from life to carry is the thing I bring with me as my 'learning' and as my 'contribution' to life. It is what I contribute to the leaning-ness of mankind, and my own knowledge. Knowledge not of the mind but the knowledge of experience and wisdom.

If I never carry any weight I do not bring 'home' anything.

The art is to break off the right amount of weight, not too much, not too little.

Sure, it is possible to break off a HUGE chunck and get buried by it for lifetimes.

Or it is possible to break off tiny tiny nibbles and take forever to fill a meaningful amount of wisdom and learning.

Somewhere there is a middle path. I guess I'm best off if I  carry what I can carry  with a bit of effort in a good backpack. Any more and I slow down too much, any less and I waste my 'trip' i.e. my trip into physical life. ...

I've always thought that since weight in great doses is crushing and 'wrong' then ALL weight is bad.  So in my life I avoided the weight of responsibility.

But the truth is that it is like medicine: a little cures, a lot kills. This is true of most medicines, esp heart medicines used by modern doctors.

It is the quantity that decides if something is a poison or a cure, it is the quantity that decides if something is a learning for wisdom or a rock that crushes....

---(O)---

Since we are all connected, we can break off weights for self, but also for others.

And what if we break off too much weight ? this is bound to happen sooner or later. We are here to learn, how  will we learn if we don't go too far ? or too little ?

We are not alone.

Help is there, but I need to ask... (I tend to forget that part)...

And then there is group learning.... another topic... 

Gitta Malasz in the book "talking with Angels" writes how the angels see weight as a positive thing. It is the raw material that we transform and bring to the table of life .... something like that anyway....

So the art lies in getting the 'amount' right... :-) hm....

hmm.... this is my understanding at THIS time of the mystery of being alive on this planet....

how people control other people -

A follow on thought on the writings of a previous blog here   xylantheum.blogspot.com/2010/02/nameless-fear-boogey-man-is-alive-and.html

People control other people by  somehow getting that nameless horror, that nameless fear attached to their authority. 

They are in effect saying: "disobey me and .........{ nameless horror of fear here }    .... will happen to you. 

It is in effect a variation of the "do as I tell you or the boogey man will get you", which is has been used on many children by their parents. 

Of course as adults, we dress it up a bit more, but in the end all power and force boils down to: "Do this or else.... " The "or else ...." part is more frightening and powerful if it is NOT explained in great detail, if it can latch into that nameless fear cloud (as per previous blog)

From the outside all that one sees is one human being, yielding power over another. The controlling human may be tiny and small and physically no match for the one being controlled. But they have the authority. 

Taking one extreme viewpoint: This kind of control violates the being of the people is controls, it is a force approach.

An authority that controls others through fear like this, has special powers over its subjects.  What they tend to forget is that this kind of control breeds hatred and revolt and rebellion. 

This approach also has  a fatal weakness ( :-) )... can you guess what it is ? 

Answer: The fatal weakness is this: once a person works out how this control through fear works, they see that the control is INSIDE them, and they can remove that control from within themselves and be free of it !

Example: for years I felt fearful and guilty  about a certain issue. Religious authorities had their control claws into me well and truly. 

Then eventually I tossed out that fear. I saw it for what it was: a paper tiger. 

"Ah master, would you say that this is the reason such things are allowed to exist ?"

"What things do you mean Grasshopper ?" 

"Control through fear"

"I don't know why things are allowed to exist or not. But I do see that there is a lesson in this for us."

"You mean the lesson of recognizing how we are being controlled through fear ?" 

"Yes, exactly, it is a realization and consciousness change that releases you from that control through fear. And that to me seems like something that life would want us to learn."

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As a small kid, I was totally afraid of my parents. 

Parents were all powerful. 

I suspect that some of that fear lodged as part of the nameless cloud of fear discussed in blog xylantheum.blogspot.com/2010/02/nameless-fear-boogey-man-is-alive-and.html