Wednesday, March 03, 2010

how people control other people -

A follow on thought on the writings of a previous blog here

People control other people by  somehow getting that nameless horror, that nameless fear attached to their authority. 
They are in effect saying: "disobey me and .........{ nameless horror of fear here }    .... will happen to you. 
It is in effect a variation of the "do as I tell you or the boogey man will get you", which is has been used on many children by their parents. 

Of course as adults, we dress it up a bit more, but in the end all power and force boils down to: "Do this or else.... " The "or else ...." part is more frightening and powerful if it is NOT explained in great detail, if it can latch into that nameless fear cloud (as per previous blog)

From the outside all that one sees is one human being, yielding power over another. The controlling human may be tiny and small and physically no match for the one being controlled. But they have the authority. 

Taking one extreme viewpoint: This kind of control violates the being of the people is controls, it is a force approach.
An authority that controls others through fear like this, has special powers over its subjects.  What they tend to forget is that this kind of control breeds hatred and revolt and rebellion. 

This approach also has  a fatal weakness ( :-) )... can you guess what it is ? 
Answer: The fatal weakness is this: once a person works out how this control through fear works, they see that the control is INSIDE them, and they can remove that control from within themselves and be free of it !
Example: for years I felt fearful and guilty  about a certain issue. Religious authorities had their control claws into me well and truly. 
Then eventually I tossed out that fear. I saw it for what it was: a paper tiger. 

"Ah master, would you say that this is the reason such things are allowed to exist ?"
"What things do you mean Grasshopper ?" 
"Control through fear"
"I don't know why things are allowed to exist or not. But I do see that there is a lesson in this for us."
"You mean the lesson of recognizing how we are being controlled through fear ?" 
"Yes, exactly, it is a realization and consciousness change that releases you from that control through fear. And that to me seems like something that life would want us to learn."

 -------- off cuts and other stuff below ----------
As a small kid, I was totally afraid of my parents. 
Parents were all powerful. 
I suspect that some of that fear lodged as part of the nameless cloud of fear discussed in blog

Monday, March 01, 2010

nameless fear - the boogey man is alive and well hidden....

there is a thing,
it is nameless and shapeless
and cannot be seen

It has no smell and not colour
and yet it exists.
It has not mouth,
no words
no sound it makes
and yet everyone listens to it.

what is it ?

Let me give you a clue:

I have a report to write, don't interrupt me. It's GOT to be finished by close of
biz today....

I've GOT  to get to this meeting on time ....

I've GOT to get that house and investment purchase....

I've GOT to make Mary think I'm......

If s/he leaves me I'll be.....   I have to do everything to prevent prevent that, no price is too high to prevent that... I'll bend myself double and turn myself inside out to prevent that... arggahhha.............

All those things above have one thing in common: FEAR. 
Nameless fear. A fear that I'll do ANYTHING (well almost) to stop it happening. 

It works like this: Some scenario pops into one's head:
"if he/she leave me then.... "
"if I don't get the promotion then.... "
the effect of what will happen is not put into clear words  but the feeling and the unspoken implication is that I can't cope, it would be the end of world for me.
It remains a nameless horror.
And that is where it's strength is, in being nameless.
Because as long as it is nameless it is HUGE and all engulfing and all Encompassing. I'll feel like (not that I will) pay ANY price to prevent it.
AT this point it is still not articulated. It is still nameless.

but as soon as I put that horror into words it sounds ridiculous and silly.
Then the conscious mind steps in and says:
"What I was afraid of THAT ? ha ha ha !"

But in reality it was the FEELING that is the active component.
putting it into words helps to get a grip.
But behind the words was a feeling.
If I do not deal with the feeling as a feeling then the cloud of fear will simply attach itself to something else.
Then I can again put it into words and again gain a degree of control.
But the nameless fear still lurks.

I find it best to deal with that fear cloud, the feeling of fear and anxiety on the level of FEELING. There are ways to do this, e.g. Chi Gong, energy transformation exercises.

"the secret of life is to have no fear" - Nkwame Nkruma

So I find that FEELING is the active core behind words and mind.

The same thing applies to other emotions such as discontent, which masquerades as a search for  happiness.
If I only have THIS, or THAT I'll be happy.
I get both THIS and THAT and I'm still not happy...
Welcome to the quest of life... :-)


ooooo i LIKE this one. really excellent point. move things into the conscious, and they lose their hidden power.

interesting point, now i think about it - move anything into the conscious, and it loses its magic. wonder if that's why religious fanatics hate science?

METAPHYSICAL MUSER: yes, good point, move anything into the conscious and it loses it's magic.
it gives the illusion of control, and it does give some measure of control, i.e. fear loses it's power, but in the end consciousness itself is not the answer either. It is both the conscious and the feeling together. Consciousness  can see and understand, but to effect change it needs feelings as well.

--------------- below: earlier drafts ------------------------------------
You ask me if I'm afraid ? 
I'm not afraid ! 
I really am not. 
What is there to be afraid of ? 

But when I'm really honest I see that when I type a report, and I feel I absolutely HAVE to get it finished or else.... 
what is the "or else" all about ? 

When I'm late for a meeting, I rush and hurry. I don't want to be late or else... so I rush and run and puff and pant and push people out of the way and feel impatient with everything and everyone...
another  "or else"....

I worry about not having enough money when I'm old and infirm. 
Better to have enough money or else.... 

Damn these constant interruptions, I gotta get this report typed, by today or else....

if you only believe in what you can see, measure and prove, are you safe ? 
Am I safe if I only believe in what I can measure, prove and see ? 
Well maybe. 
I might convince myself that I am. 
Anything I cannot put a name on does not exist for me. 
What about things that have no name. ?

"the secret of life is to have no fear" - Nkwame Nkruma